Tuesday, September 4, 2012

Tuesday's Tastes On Second Base : Wet Nurse

     Each week April at Mama on a Green Mission and Courtney at Joy of Momma Joyner are hosting a fun post around breastfeeding.  So I am going to try my best to link up weekly with them.  Each week will be a different breastfeeding topic.  Last week they did a little update on how its going.  I missed it, but thought I'd briefly share now before I get into this weeks topic.  

     So many of you know the trouble I had with Jayden and his tongue tied issues.  Before baby boy was born I had a little fear of a repeat, but I hoped and prayed that I would not have problems.  I really wanted to breastfeed and exclusively pumping is so much harder with two children.  When Evan was born he seemed to nurse well and I was happy, but still worried.  In the hospital I was happy to meet the Lactation consultant and get a little advice from her.  Evan seemed to be latching well.  Prior to being released I asked to see her once again, but she was at a meeting downtown.  So the nurse helped me.  I just wanted her to check his latch again and get a little advice on holds.  She felt that he was latching well and that he will be fine.  She did look and didn't feel he was tongue tied like Jayden was.  I asked about how to get him to open wider and she helped with that and shared that he will get the hang of it and open wide on his own soon.  
     So I went home still a little worried just from past experiences.  The nurse shared they have a breastfeeding support group that is free once a week and the LC ran the group.  So I kept that information in case I needed it.  At home Evan seemed to continue to do well.  I was happy the Pediatrician didn't say he was dehydrated and I needed to supplement with formula (that is what happened with Jayden).  I actually held my breath at the doctors office. But everything seems to be going well and I have been able to let out that breath and relax a little.  My milk has come in VERY strong and baby boy is an eating champ.  He has learned to open his mouth wide so far, but is working on controlling those hands that push away.  I am not sure how much he has gained, but I am fairly certain that he is getting back to birth rate and will be there or close by his 2 week appointment this Thursday.  I must say I love seeing his little milk smile after he eats and has milk all over his mouth.  So that is my update.  

     This weeks Topic is Wet Nurse.  First lets start with what a wet nurse is.  A wet nurse is a woman that breastfeeds another woman's baby.  So the mom either can not or chooses not to breastfeed and another woman is hired to breastfeed the child.  I have heard of this and I know that it used to happen a lot many years ago.  I have not known or heard of anyone that does this now, but it very well may happen.  

     I am a little torn on how I feel about this topic.  I do believe that breast milk is best for babies and if mom can not supply that breast milk, but someone else is willing to then that is great for the baby.  But then I get into  would I want my baby breastfeed by someone else?  I really don't think so.  Breastfeeding is a very intimate thing and I feel like I want to share that experience with my child.  I would feel horrible if that experience was between my child and another woman (not me).  If I was unable to breastfeed Evan then I would resort to exclusively pumping like I did with Jayden.  If it was my milk supply and I was not able to supply enough then I would be at a crossroad as far as where to go.  But lucky I have not reached that crossroad and hopefully I will not ever have to go there.  

     With that said I would never look down on a mama that decided this is the way to go for them.  Everyone has a right to choose how they want to feed their baby weather it is from breastfeeding, formula, shared breast milk, or wet nurse.  I'd love to hear how you feel about using a wet nurse or being a wet nurse.  

     And when your done here make sure you jump over to April and Courtney's blogs to see what they wrote on this topic.  If your inspired and would like to join this weekly post or even if just this time please feel free to write it up on your blog and link up.


  1. I've also heard of "wet nurses" pumping for another mom so that she may bottle feed breast milk if she was unable to produce for one reason or another.
    But then I would think about how healthy she is, and other habits she may have...
    There are milk banks for such situations I've heard.

  2. Thanks for linking up!!! So glad all is going well and Evan is a nursing champ!! :)

    I definitely understand about not wanting someone else to nurse your baby. That would be quite awkward for me, too. I think the only way I would be ok with that is if I had passed away because at that point I would want my baby to be comforted and have that closeness with a mom figure while still be nourished the best way possible. :)

  3. First let me say that I’m glad that your baby is doing great and he’s finally getting the hang of it and that your milk supply is coming along . Second, your weekly topics sound very interesting and I’ll be hoping to the other blogs to read what the other bloggers thought about the wet nurse topic. I first heard of a wet nurse on TV few months ago and I had the same reaction as you did. Didn’t know first where I stood with it, but now I don’t think I’d ever be able to use their services if it were offered to me. It’s not just the bonding that they would have with YOUR baby but also how do you know for sure what’s in their breast milk that you are feeding your baby. I understand they could do much testing before using someone else’s breast milk but there are a lot of things that these tests could miss and I wouldn’t want to take a chance on that. I wouldn’t criticize another women’s option to use those services either, to each their own, but personally I wouldn’t feel comfortable. I’d try to do my best on breastfeeding my child and if can’t or chose not to altogether, there are other things that you can resort to, like pumping exclusively or bottle feeding exclusively.